Child’s Play: It Ain’t What it Used to Be


While adults like to reminisce about romping outside with the neighbourhood kids, making up their own games from sunrise to sundown, this isn't the reality today. A 2010 study[1] found children age to 8 to 18 spent nearly 8 hours a day using or consuming media (including smart phones, TVs, DVDs, videos, video games, computers, movies, music and print) for non-school uses.

Given that there are only so many hours in a day, it’s very likely that these more passive forms of entertainment are squeezing out “make believe” play.  Make believe play, also called pretend, free or imaginative play, is defined as “the acting out of stories which involve multiple perspectives and the playful manipulation of ideas and emotions"[2].

The End of Pretend?

Psychologist David Elkind attributes the decline in make believe play to “a perfect storm of technological innovation, rapid social change, and economic globalization."[3] He notes the powerful allure of increasingly powerful tech devices, from video games to computers and big-screen TVs. He also says it’s become more convenient for today’s time-strapped single and working parents to outsource aspects of parenting to everyone from sports coaches to tutors—especially when they are insecure about their offspring’s place in the competitive global economy.

Power Play

Less make believe play is a concern, since imaginative play helps children learn about social interaction and friendships[4], and develops their self-regulation skills “including reduced aggression, delay of gratification, civility, and empathy."[5] Play also might be a great (and inexpensive) way to develop little Mozart’s creative streak: it's been shown to improve flexible thinking and creativity[6] and is associated with increased creative performance[7] later in life.

"A national survey by the Kaiser Family Foundation found that with technology allowing nearly 24-hour media access as children and teens go about their daily lives, the amount of time young people spend with entertainment media has risen dramatically, especially among minority youth."

"Systematic research has increasingly demonstrated a series of clear benefits of children’s engagement in pretend games from the ages of about two and one half through ages six or seven."

David Elkind says play is essential to positive human development, but kids are playing less and less.

"Forms of pretend play, role-play and rough and tumble play enable children to develop highly sophisticated attachment systems, particularly during the period of middle childhood when peer friendships take on more significance."

"When children use toys to  introduce possible scenarios or friends, the representation of multiple perspectives occurs naturally. Taking on different roles allows children the unique opportunity to learn social skills such as communication, problem solving, and empathy."

  • Secure and Calm

    Secure and calm describes the ability to take part in daily activities and approach new situations without being overwhelmed with worries, sadness or anxiety. To be secure and calm also means being able to cope with stress and pressure, and to bounce back from difficulties.
  • Gets Along with Others

    Getting along with others is the ability to form positive and healthy relationships with peers and adults. Children with better abilities to regulate their emotions and behaviours have more friends and experience more positive playtime with their peers.
  • Alert and Engaged

    Being alert and engaged is the ability to manage and direct one's own feelings, thoughts and emotions. In general, the ability to be 'present' and to exercise self-control.
  • Compassionate and Kind

    Being compassionate and kind is closely related to empathy. While empathy refers more generally to the ability to take the perspective of and to feel the emotions of another person, compassion goes one step further.
  • Solves Problems Peacefully

    Managing conflict effectively is about creating an atmosphere where violence and aggression are not likely. To resolve conflict means using empathy, problem-solving skills, understanding other points of view and coming up with ways to make things right in a fair way.